I’ve been married for over 11 years now, and sometimes it feels like the single and newlywed days were a lifetime ago. I can’t remember what it felt like to be “on the market” or free to go wherever I wanted, whenever I wanted. Most of my days are spent doing laundry, dishes, running errands, reading and writing with my daughter, taking dogs on a walk and working from home. The carefree days are gone, but every time I look at a wedding dress, it brings me back to the day I got married and all the joy and excitement I felt. A wedding day is one you want to remember and cherish the rest of your life. That’s why we spend so much time and energy to make sure it’s just perfect.
My little brother is getting married this summer and I’m really excited for him. He is such a great guy, but very unique and a little odd. He’s not one you could really imagine getting married, but now that I see his bride to be, they totally fit. There haven’t been any marriages in my family for six years so we’re all really excited. I’m making him a wedding video to use the day of the wedding that shows all the cute pictures of them growing up, dating and finally getting engaged, but I also want to get them a fun gift. I’m not one for giving people a generic candle or picture frame for a wedding because I really disliked getting those gifts at my wedding. And please, I really don’t need a fifth waffle iron to add to my collection. With this in mind, I’ve been looking at different online stores and I found one called The Knot that has some really fun and unique gifts for the bride and groom that you can personalize.
I got married in December and learned first hand all of the stressful adventures that lie between the time a couple decides to get married and time they actually tie the knot. Our engagement was a little over 3 months long, and believe me, that’s long enough! One such adventure that all must experience is finding and purchasing rings.
So I’ve finally managed to choose the location for the reception-which is a HUGE relief! Going into it I had no idea how in-depth the process can be! I just figured, see a pretty building, have a big party there. End of story. Well, all brides-to-be get a short ride on the delusional train-just make sure you don’t stay on too long! The whistle blew for me when I realized that most reception venues come with their own catering company, or at the very least a list of preferred or accepted caterers. The cheapest way is always to do your own food and drinks, but is extremely unlikely that you will find a place with a low enough rent that will let you do so without a catering license. Assuming that you can’t find that set-up, the following ideas can save you time and money. And of course, it is always nice to have someone doing the work for you on your wedding day. Visit www.theknot.com for a detailed list of wedding reception venues in your area, and some preliminary information on how much you should expect to pay there.
Who knew that choosing a wedding party would be such a convoluted process?? My fiance and I have been consistently surprised at the people to whom our wedding is a big deal, and the one’s who couldn’t seem to care less. We are constantly running into reactions that surprise us. For example, imagine our consternation when, after selecting our bridesmaids and groomsmen, we had one of them tell us that they’d have to wait and see how our wedding month went for them! On the other end of the spectrum, a friend we hadn’t seen in years informed us they would fly in from overseas for the event, and a casual coworker booked a return flight from their new position in a different city. The unpredictability of people’s reaction to your wedding is just one of the things that makes choosing your wedding party difficult.
Soon after I got engaged I started calling reception venues and trying to get the location for my wedding reception set. I got engaged right before Christmas, and I wanted to be able to choose the venue when my sister was in town over the holidays to look at them too. Unfortunately, I had skipped the essential step of finalizing a wedding date! Because my fiancé and I had not done our homework properly before I started looking at venues, I wound up wasting a lot of time. So, step one, before you start browsing through wedding gowns, picking out invitations OR looking for a reception venue, you have to decide when you are getting married.